Date Night Principle: Generosity Melts the Heart

This is a quick and sweet story. Britt and I had an excellent time with some friends in Gatlinburg this past week on Spring Break. One of the mornings, Britt and I wanted to pull away and spend some time together, we also brought our one year old Lily along for a family breakfast. It’s safe to assume that we had breakfast at one of the 30,000 pancake restaurants Gatlinburg has to offer. The moment we sat down Lily began to attract the attention of a couple next to us — this never used to happen when I was single, only since marrying Britt and now with Lily around. After striking up a short conversation with this couple we learned they were celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary. They were a sweet couple, so we celebrated with them for a few minutes, and after they left we went back to enjoying our breakfast together (none of us ordered pancakes, btw).

Our waitress visited us a few minutes later and let us know that our meal and tip were taken care of. The sweet couple we had interacted with a few moments before had taken care of it all! We were speechless, our hearts were melted, and we were flying the rest of the day. This scenario reminded me of a principle we’ve learned in our marriage: generosity and kindness can melt each others hearts. Whenever things are a bit choppy between Britt and I, it’s inevitable that when one of us breaks and seeks to be generous and kind to the other, the other heart eventually melts, and oneness is restored. Whether it’s Britt making a bigger investment in me, myself giving a smaller gift, or one of us simply staying up a bit later to clean the house, we’ve learned that generosity is a powerful agent of oneness building in our marriage. That’s why date nights are so sweet, because someone is always thinking to be generous and kind to the other!

Incidentally, Britt learned some new info on me. After visiting good amount of Gatlinburg shops and noticing I didn’t even express the smallest bit of interest in buying anything, she learned that I have a theory of buying things: “If it’s handmade, unique, or authentic then I have no interest in buying it”. Britt learned I would rather buy a good book from Amazon on my iPhone while standing in Barnes and Noble (I admit it) or stuff Apple makes.